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The Facebook Mom

Brown’s last recommendation is Katie Roiphe’s Financial Times article “Disappearing Mothers,” about a growing trend among moms on Facebook in which they use photos of their children as profile pictures instead of photos of themselves.

“The choice may seem trivial,” Roiphe writes, “but the whole idea behind Facebook is to create a social persona, an image of who you are projected into hundreds of bedrooms and cafes and offices across the country. Why would that image be of someone else, however closely bound they are to your life, genetically and otherwise?”

“She really talks about how women still sort of want to efface themselves and promote their children as opposed to themselves,” Brown says. “And she thinks that’s a very unhealthy commentary on women’s sense of identity.”

Roiphe writes that while children are an important achievement, they shouldn’t define you.

“She thinks that children should actually not be the complete center of everybody’s worlds,” Brown says. “They should be allowed to have their own space and identity, and so should parents.”

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